Happy Mother’s Day Mum! 🌹

Let’s be honest we all have been searching for that perfect Mother’s Day gift the last few weeks…….Right? or for some of the procrastinaters, the last few days huh? lol  There is nothing wrong with that but I would like to point out something……….


Mother’s, fathers , friends, etc should not only be celebrated on holidays including birthdays or Mother or Father’s Day. We should be celebrating our loved ones year round, just because we can. We should celebrate them with our time, resources, a listening ear, or what ever else we can offer that they may need. Sad to say, and I am sorry I have to be the “party pooper,” but the truth is holidays are just made up so that various companies can make money off of us ! You agree huh ?


My point of this blog is not to bash holidays but just to remind people to check themselves and make sure they AREN’T waiting until birthdays and man-made holidays to celebrate and show appreciation for their loved ones! Also always keep in mind buying expensive gifts one or two times a year don’t necessarily mean you love someone. Love is so much more and so much deeper than materialistic things, and the sooner some of us realize that the better.


Despite the above statements I am keeping in mind that it is still Mother’s Day and I want to take some time to brag on my mum and our mother daughter bond/relationship. Like I continue to tell people in general no relationship is easy, it has its up and downs to it. No relationship is perfect, but I sure am thankful for my relationship with my mum.


As I grow I learn. I learn from the world around me and most importantly I learn from the person I spend lotssss of time talking to and bonding with…. my Mum. Me and my mother are two very different people to say the least and we see the world through two different lenses. I would say hers is a little more colored while mine is more so black and white due to various differences in our backgrounds & interpretations of the world around us.

I tend to be a bit more “sensitive” as some would say in my family while others look at my mum and comment on how “strong” & resilient she has been through difficult mishaps over the last 2 decades in her kids lives and in her own personal life/marriage(s).


Side Note: When God made me I believe he took pieces of…. ( Yes, I am aware about the chromosomes you get from both parents, just follow me here lol.) my mother and my father and put me together. As I continue to grow older I see more of my mum’s resilience in me, and the need to fight my way through troubles no matter how many times I have to fall, and also I see a very opinionated mindset meaning when I aim to do something nothing & I mean nothing will stand in my way. (So thank you for those great traits Mum, believe I need them along with YOU NOW more than ever) Don’t worry daddy I didn’t forget about you. The more I grow I see more of my dad’s relaxed humor and need to connect with others constantly in my personality. (Thanks dad, I may not be as funny as you but you know, I have my moments.)


I continue to remain thankful for all the good and not so good traits I received from my Mum and Dad! I guess you could say, I wouldn’t be me without them.


Now come on, of course my mom had her mind of what she wanted for Mother’s Day already and I was blessed enough to be able to do for her what I could but me being so extra, artsy, and let’s not forget a writer I couldn’t help myself but to make a collage. The collage has some pics of me and my mum to remind me just how awesome, beautiful, talented, honest (sometimes toooo “honest) and sometimes ”un” funny(🤣) she is. I wouldn’t trade her for anything though! Lol! I love today and everyday Mum !

I wish I had more pictures of my beautiful mum but it has been a while since I have seen her in person…. But I do have some embarrassing pics from us video chatting (seeing as we talk like everyday) I could have dug up & posted those pics but….nvm! Hope you enjoyed my blog! Also don’t forget, don’t wait until a “holiday” or special occasion to celebrate and show love and attention to your loved ones ! Do it everyday !!! Because why not ? Life is short . 🌹



As always thank you for reading and stay tuned ! & I just want to say Happy Freaking Mother’s Day to all the hardworking, beautiful, intelligent Mother’s who have raised or are raising children ! You deserve to be celebrated everyday for your sacrifices, patience, and your unconditional love for your families !!!!!!! XOXOX


~Natasha M.

 

 

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Introduction to Author Natasha R. Minier 💚

I wanted to take a moment & say hello 👋 to all my new & old subscribers !💋💓


I am Natasha but some ppl call me Nat & my family calls me Tash. I am 24 years old & my page Facebook.com/natashaminier documents my journey with mental illness along with giving updates on my upcoming memoir, my book Words Are Art: See The World Through My Eyes & Colorless Love (BOTH BOOKS ARE NOW AVAILABLE ON AMAZON ), my weekly blog posts and sometimes random singing videos or vlogs.


My goal is to inspire others with my story and be a voice to all the people that have been suffering in silence. 💡🤐 I am young but I have been through tragedies I would never wish on another human being and I hope through my journey others will know they are not alone. 🌎🌻🌼 Mental health matters and I want to show my family, loved ones, & others I don’t know personally know just how devastating symptoms can be. The truth is we need to talk about mental health with one another and end the stigma. We need to show others it’s okay to speak out and SEEK HELP, ATTEND THERAPY, TAKE MEDS, etc. The people struggling with mental health issues need to know it is okay to do whatever you need to do to take care of your mental health. There is no need to be ashamed. You are NOT WEAK BECAUSE YOU SEEK HELP. You are BRAVE! REMEMBER THAT. We need to show more LOVE to the people like me, that struggle day in and day out with mental illness symptoms. I don’t exactly understand everything about my illnesses and despite the fact I have bad days, I will use everything I have for good & to change the world. 🗺 Love is the greatest gift you can give others and I will use every talent God has blessed me with & every piece of my energy to spread love, even on my bad days.💚


I wanted to say THANK YOU to you all for subscribing and taking your time to read my work! I appreciate all the likes & feedback! ❤️


Feel free to MESSAGE AND CONNECT WITH ME ANYTIME !

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This is a journey for me & I am confident God will get me through whatever may come & he will get you through too ! Let’s raise awareness about mental illness together !


Inspire. Motivate. Love ❤️

~ Natasha R. Minier


Drawing New Lines.

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I didn’t draw new lines because I wanted to break rules and go against everything I once believed in. I am deciding to draw new lines in my life because I am sick and tired of trying to fit (my colors) who I am into the “lines” aka expectations I felt others put on me, and even the ones I put on myself. I have caused myself to remain coloring inside the same old lines, because I felt I was doing the best I could for myself.


I am sick and oh so very tired of trying to “fit in,” by being everything I think everybody else wants or needs me to be. Living a life to simply please other people just to not be alone is no longer worth it. I have found many people do this & it is a miserable life to live. When I am up in the middle of the night & can’t sleep, or I’m crying for hours, self harming, in the hospital, just overall NOT OKAY. Not one of those people who I tried, for so long to “keep my color inside the lines for” is anywhere to be found. So the question is why have I/we been wasting time on people who simply want us to conform to who and what they feel we should be ? WHAT ?


I could just scream today because I am sick of others telling me who or what I am or who or what I should be.


You are sensitive, Don’t be so weak, You are lazy, it’s so hard to be your friend, dealing with you and with your mental illness is too much, I don’t love you, I am not willing/capable to give you what you want/need, (Mental Illness), “Oh I can’t relate.” I will NEVER be able to understand mental illness, or those times where I tried to open up about my mental illness symptoms and I was literally ignored or the subject was changed …………


You know what I am so ashamed of myself, the same people who said those things 👆🏽(Up there)to me I tried to convince them why I was worth it their time. I tried to convince them how I could be who they wanted me to be. I attempted to convince why they should stay in my life and be my friend, associate, and sadly even my husband and ultimately I tried to convinced them why I was worth being in their life.


Me convincing them and conforming (keeping my coloring in the lines) to who or what I they wanted me to be worked, for a while. But then they ended up feeling exactly what they had said to me initially and they ended up leaving my life in one way or another. Whether I cut them off because I found out the relationship was unhealthy for my mental health or some other reason.


Looking back on it, it honestly seems like all of those relationships negatively affected my well-being and mental health, and as painful as it has been to have my life fall apart friends gone, x hub gone. I was tired of coloring in the lines.


I have grown tired of being what I everyone else wants me to be, so now I will live my life being who I feel God wants me, sticking to my morals, and being honest about my mental health. No more hiding, no more convincing people why I’m a diamond in the rough (like my mom says) if you can’t see it then you must not belong in my life.


I am making a commitment to myself, no more coloring in the lines aka conforming to what/who others tell me they want me to be. I’m not perfect and I have many flaws but no one,not me, not you should be changing themselves just to have friends, a bf,gf, husband,wife,etc because it’s not worth it and it’s exhausting.


Don’t hide yourself, your mental illness symptoms, your self harm scars, your tears, your anxiety, those are what make you, you. and something’s are out of our control. We must cope & surround ourselves with people who we don’t have to hide our imperfections from and say we are okay when NOTHING’S OKAY.


Surround yourself with people that love you despite your flaws and imperfections. Surround yourself with people who won’t call you names, who won’t make jokes about mental illness or treat you differently once they find out you have mental illness, or make you feel unwanted, unloved and like a burden, or look down on you for the self harm scars on your legs/arms/etc


Surround yourself with people who will love you with no boundaries & who will love you for you because you are worth it and so am I.❤️😘


 

Inspire.Motivate. Love ~ Natasha M.

* I don’t own this photo.*

What Defines You?

 A question I have always hated. The reason I’ve probably disliked it so much is because I never really knew the answer and I still don’t. I think I know what I want to define me…..


I have been so bogged down by can’t do and won’t dos I have lost sight of all the can do’s and all the things I have accomplished. It seems so easy to hold on to the negative aspects of our lives and let those things define us, especially if we feel guilty about those events.


Let’s be honest here, I have become so consumed with my failures and fear of failures it has began to overshadow my judgement. It has began to define me and that’s because I let it.


Last night as I sat catching up on school work, I came across a Ted Talks that blew my mind ( Link Below). Lizzie said everything in the video I needed to hear in just that moment. This is by far one of the BEST and most INSPIRATIONAL videos I’ve had the pleasure of watching !


I feel like I should rewatch it because you know what sometimes I just need someone who is going through a storm in their life too constantly just like me to make me question myself. Like what have I been doing? Fading away in misery ….. not caring about what happens to me or my life. Being silent. Being afraid to be myself…. Being afraid to be around people.  OMG I’ve put myself into a box and honestly I can’t get out of it.

Why have I stuck myself here? Why has anxiety, BPD, Bipolar and my PTSD lead me here?


The truth of the matter is, I let it lead me here, I’ve given up on others their lack of understanding, my faith is fading, my heart is growing cold, I am without love, I am without patience, and worst of all I’ve somewhat given up on myself. I am bitter. I am angry for everything I am and for everything I have become.


Interesting thing is in the below video Lizzie says something she use to wish she could scrub her syndrome off, and then her life would be better. You know I wish I could scrub my mental illness off, especially on my worse days. I wish I could wake up and not feel this anymore. I wish I could stop taking the meds. I wish it all would just stop……


But while I may have mental illness I do have some common sense, I know that’s not the way life works and it will never work that way.

I may be wrong but I believe a big difference between me and Lizzie is the fact I haven’t quite conquered the action of acceptance. I don’t know how. Is it me saying? I’m ill and that’s okay. I can’t say that, I can’t believe that. It’s not okay, the sadness hurts, I don’t like being like this……..  and it hasn’t been okay for a long time. On the other hand Lizzie has accepted her syndrome, and has learned to look at the positives aspects of it like you will see in the video below!


It is time for a new perspective because the way I am seeing things now is only distorting my view and hurting me more by worsening my conditions.


People like Lizzie, are so brave and courageous, and it melts my heart because I aspire to be more like her, and accept and overcome my illness. Though me and Lizzie deal with different types of “illnesses,” I connected so much with what she said. Her words, honesty, and willingness to share her journey had me in tears ! Make sure you watch this & be inspired ! ❤

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Be sure to share! ❤

Inspire.Motivate. Love
~Natasha R. Minier

Mental Health Matters and This Is My Journey


I wake up some days and all I want to do is stay in bed or in one spot all day. My body wants one thing and my mind wants another. I feel down dealing with the depressive end of bipolar symptoms, I want to isolate from people, I don’t care about eating or doing self-care. I just want to stay in my misery and keep it to myself so I am not a burden to anyone else with my hopeless feelings or talk of how bad I feel.


So what right ? Everyone has their own battles to fight and I don’t want to make it seem like my issues with mental illness are more significant than anyone else’s problems. We all struggle and have battles to fight just in different ways and in different areas of our lives. Certain days my body says one thing and my mind says something else, and that was definitely the case today. My body felt tired but my mind started going and going. Days like today I can’t figure out where my body gets the energy or drive to go and just do, but I am thankful today was one of those days. As much as I wanted to just say blah, I didn’t. I was able to get up, clean a little bit, and exercise. I have/ am still learning to be grateful for those bright and beautiful moments like me having energy to do my makeup,straighten my hair, hang out with friends, go to class, brush my teeth, etc because I know when I experience escalated symptoms like I have been for the last few months and I feel lower than low these things seem like the hardest things ever to try to do.


I am so thankful that I was able to do some self-care not only for my physical well-being but also for my mental well-being . One moment at a time on the path to wellness, it hasn’t been a perfect journey thus far but it will be worth it. I am thankful for my victory today & I hope you take time to appreciate and acknowledge your victories too !


Inspire. Motivate. Love ~Natasha M.

Don’t Suffer in Silence.

If you are suffering in silence and dealing with mental health issues, just know you are not alone there are others like me going through the same thing. Also, there are health care providers that can help you. Go get screened and GET HELP. Talk to a friend or family member you trust and ask them to go with you, it is worth getting the help.


 

Inspire. Motivate. Love ~ Natasha M.

Continue ;


When you are going through a “storm” in your life, it seems like there is no way to get out of it, and then God pulls you through. It’s so hard to think about those times when the storm has seemed to last so long or you feel it’s taking everything away from you. But fear not, God got you out once and he will DO IT AGAIN.


Today I choose to continue through the storm ;

 If you are struggling with mental illness or different forms of stress, (we are all human and we all have our own battles to overcome) my hope is that you continue through the storm also. God has our backs, and he has a plan and purpose FOR EACH ONE OF OUR LIVES.


Have a great Saturday lovely people ! You will be hearing from me soon lord’s willing !


Inspire. Motivate. Love ~ Natasha M.